In my last post, I questioned the claim that money is always better spent on experiences than things. I tried to show that for some people, especially those who are highly sensitive to aesthetic considerations, things may be particularly valuable. Such people may have good reason to spend money on things rather than experiences. Indeed, it may be the case that the experiences that they value most—playing an instrument, tending to a garden, chatting with friends, going on walks, playing tennis– are free (or nearly so). If all the best experiences in life are free, why not spend money on well-chosen material possessions that add beauty and interest to everyday life? In this post, I want to dig deeper into the things that we care about. I will explore some of the reasons why we may value and/or want to purchase things. These reasons can be divided into the following categories, with some overlap among them: (1) personal connection, (2) historicity, (3) rarity, (4) aesthetics, and (5) utility. Given that I touched upon categories (4) and (5) in my last post, I will focus my attention here on the other three categories: (1) personal connection, (2) historicity, and (3) rarity. By investigating what we care about and why, we can gain important insights into human nature and the psychology of individual human beings.
(1) Personal Connection
Some of the things that are most important to us have sentimental value in virtue of a connection to others or our own personal past. Items in this category may even share a physical or bodily connection with a person we care, or cared, about. Consider, for example, Bashō’s haiku (translated by David LaSpina) concerning the strands of his recently deceased mother’s hair. Following her death, his brother had placed the strands in a box to keep. Bashō, heartbroken and grieving over his mother’s death, is unsure whether he can bare to hold them in his hand:
should I take it in my hand,
it would melt from my hot tears—
like autumn frost
—Bashō
Seeing the body of a loved one after they have died can be a devastating and heartbreaking experience; we associate the mind—the person—with the body. Holding part of a loved one’s body—their physicality, their hair—would be painful for similar reasons. The actual parts of a loved one’s body can affect us deeply because of a personal connection. This also accounts for why many people show reverence for the ashes of their deceased loved ones; they are the only physical remains of someone who was deeply care for and loved.
To be sure, the parts of another’s body need not always bring us sadness. In other contexts, they may bring us comfort and even joy. Throughout different periods of history, lovers, and even friends, have exchanged locks of hair as a gesture of closeness or intimacy, particularly during times of separation. And many parents save a lock of their child’s hair following their first haircut. They may also collect their first set of teeth and cherish these items later in life.
We may value the physical parts of people beyond our kin as well. Following his death, the hair of Elvis Presley, collected over the years by his hairdresser, was sold to fans and collectors. And, as documented by in Descartes’s Bones, relic collectors removed parts of Descartes’s body– including his skull and right index finger—as it was transported from Sweden back to France for his burial. At the time of his death, Descartes was already quite famous, and many believed that he was a candidate for sainthood.
Thus far, I have discussed cases in which people value the very physicality of another person. But personal connection, as I understand it here, encompasses far more than this. It includes anything that we value because of a connection to another or our own personal past. For example, an engagement ring (connection to another person) may matter to a person not just because of its monetary value, if any, but because of the connection to the romantic partner or relationship. Even if the ring were replaced by a physically identical copy, or one of greater monetary value, it would not have the same personal meaning to its possessor and so not be as valuable overall. For many people, a ring of this kind has personal meaning and is, therefore, irreplaceable. The same may be true of a school ring (connection to personal past). The ring may have symbolic value and be connected with important memories from one’s earlier life.
We reflect upon the importance of such items when a family loses everything in a house fire or natural disaster—non-digital photographs, family heirlooms, baby books, children’s artwork, love letters, cards, and so much more. All these items have a connection to others we care about or to our own personal past.
We may also care about the physical structures themselves—those that house our things and our memories. When an elderly person can no longer live independently and must move into an assisted living facility, they generally do so with great sadness. They not only mourn the loss of their independence but also the loss of the physical structure itself—the loss of their home.
Some physical structures are meaningful for a collective or community—neighborhood restaurants, bars, schools, and so forth. When such structures are destroyed, locals often want to retrieve some piece of the remains as a memento—a way of holding on to the past. For example, after a popular and beloved dive bar in my hometown—the Old Pink—burned down, locals rushed to the scene to commemorate the structure. At the gathering, police officers had to hold people back who crossed restricted access lines to retrieve some piece of the building’s remains.
(2) Historicity
A second category of things that we care about are those with historical value. Now, in some cases, things in this category also have a personal connection to us, e.g., family heirlooms. In such cases, we would value the item for more than one reason—for both its historicity and personal connection. But, in other cases, we seem to value objects for their historicity or age alone.
Items in this category are valued because of their history, age, or connection with the past. Their value may be heightened if they are connected to important events in history, but this isn’t necessary. We may value an object in virtue of its connection to the past alone. Lovers and collectors of antiques fall into this category. For such people, an old item—a clock, a model car, a piece of furniture or clothing, etc.—may be more valuable than a new one. Interestingly, most, but not all, collectors of antiques specialize. They collect or are interested in antiques of a particular kind. When they visit an estate sale or antique store, they are on the hunt for a particular thing or class of things.
When I visit an estate sale or antique store, I am often on the lookout for interesting vintage jewelry. The fact that a piece of jewelry is old, and has a past, only adds to its value. Philosopher Carolyn Korsmeyer, who has written on the aesthetics of touch, and the importance of artefacts, can helps us account for such cases. She observes that when we come into contact with an old object or antique, it is though we are being transferred into an earlier time, i.e., we are encountering the past (61). Put somewhat differently, this little piece of the past—e.g., an antique ring— has survived and made its way into the present.
When I place an antique ring on me finger, I am cognizant of the fact that someone earlier in time once wore the same ring on her finger. This flesh and blood person from the past had a rich and complicated life like the rest of us, and there is a story to be told about her and how she acquired it. Perhaps she purchased it for herself as a treat. Or maybe she spotted it in a shop and a doting lover surprised her with it on a special occasion. All this adds to the mystery, or as Korsmeyer might put it, the “aura” of the ring.
In addition to the story behind an antique, we may appreciate its aesthetic qualities. For example, in the case of a ring, we may appreciate its wear and art nouveau design. Importantly, as Korsmeyer observes, its genuineness (“being the real thing”) or authenticity may matter much to us here (3). In my own case, while perusing vintage jewelry online, I have come across pieces of revival jewelry—pieces of jewelry that imitate an earlier style but were created in the present. These pieces always seem too perfect, unsullied, and contrived; they lack the aesthetic qualities of an authentic antique. The fact that they are so numerous—in some cases mass-produced—also detracts from their value. (I will have more to say about this under ‘rarity’ below). Indeed, even an exact replica of a vintage piece of jewelry would seem to lack the value of the real thing. Again, genuineness matters.
Korsmeyer herself goes so far as to say that that genuineness contributes to the aesthetic value of an object. There is often a certain thrill that we experience when holding a genuine piece of antiquity in our hands (29). In her view, a convincing copy does not have the same aesthetic value as the original even if we can at present detect no difference between the two (35). Aesthetic judgments are not always based upon surface properties that are immediately perceivable (34).
(3) Rarity
We seem not to care about that what is rare for its own sake, but that which is desirable in some other way but also rare. This category overlaps with historicity since historical items are generally scarce or one-of-a-kind, and thus rare. But rarity contributes to the value of other things that we care about as well.
We may value extremely beautiful objects regardless of their rarity. But we may value them even more if they are rare. This seems to account for why we value and often pay top dollar for certain gemstones, e.g., rubies, emeralds, and diamonds. Most ordinary people are unable to distinguish between diamonds and cubic zirconia but would pay far more for the former than for the latter. This, at least in part, is due to the rarity of the diamond. Its market price, another contributing factor to our valuing it, is also strongly influenced by its rarity.
Considerations of scarcity can also help us account for the value of collectible items, such as baseball cards. A limited-edition card may be of great value because few of them were produced and are available. And sneakerheads will endure lines of tremendous length to acquire rare and exclusive sneakers, such as the latest limited-edition Air Jordan. Indeed, these are often bought and then resold online for enormous sums of money.
Scarcity also plays an important role in the art market. A limited-edition fine art print tends to be worth more than an open edition print (i.e., one for which there is no limit of copies made). And an original, one-of-a-kind work of art is worth more than a limited-edition print. To be sure, original works of art are often valued for aesthetic reasons and for their contribution to the art world/art history. Scarcity does not tell us the whole story, for even high-quality fine art prints cannot capture the unique beauty of an original oil painting. Compare, for example, a fine art print of a Vincent Van Gogh painting with an original; among other things, the print cannot capture the three-dimensional texture and movement for which Van Gogh’s work is known and admired. Oil paintings, like other works of art, are best viewed and admired in person. For these and other reasons, our appreciation of an original work of art may by far outstrip any interest that we have in a reproduction. When it comes to great art, we want the original—the real thing. Taking this notion to an extreme, Jesse Prinz asserts that “If the Mona Lisa burnt in a fire, we’d sooner visit the ashes than a perfect replica” (84).
We may also care about original works of art for reasons of personal connection (discussed earlier). It may matter a great deal to us that we are purchasing the work of an artist whom we know (if only virtually) and admire. There is something sentimental and almost romantic about purchasing something made by the hand of a living, breathing human artist. Just as the past is in some way transferred to the future through an ancient relic or antique, a piece of the artist is transferred to us through their original work, or so it may seem to us in some non-literal way. This also accounts for why a hand-written love letter may mean more to us than an email or text message. We value personal, physical connection, particularly when it is attached to someone we love, admire, or respect.
Relatedly, we may feel that by purchasing an original work of art, we are supporting an individual human being in their creative endeavors and/or the art world in general. By purchasing a work of art, we are making a statement about what matters to us – about what we hold up as having true social importance. And the thing that we acquire thereby, e.g., a work of art, may be the embodiment of this value stance.
(4) Conclusion
My intention in this post has not been to provide an exhaustive list of our reasons for caring about things. Instead, I have wanted to explore the terrain and call attention to some of the reasons why we value things or material objects. One of my goals has been to show that we often care about things for reasons that are not trivial, light-minded, or shallow. Some of the things that we care about are suffused with meaning and bound up with our identity. They may embody or represent some of the most important relationships and experiences of our lives.
Some philosophies of life encourage a kind of detachment from material possessions. We should be able to cast them aside and live a humble, minimalist life. While it is wise to avoid materialism, and the hedonic treadmill with which it often associated, it is important not to ignore the often-profound reasons we have for caring about the things that matter most to us. By examining what we care about and why, we can gain important insights into human nature and our own individual psychology.
Postscript
While writing this post, I was somewhat uneasy about referring to parts of bodies as things. Are strands of hair things? What about fingernails? Body organs? It seems that our language is not designed to handle all cases in a sensitive and nuanced way. Rather, it refers to entire class of “things” with the same broad brush. When a person is alive, we may degrade them by regarding their body parts (particularly, aspects of their sexual anatomy) as mere ‘things.’ Philosophers such as Immanuel Kant and Martha Nussbaum have had interesting and important things to say on the topic. Kant goes so far as to say that a person who cuts their hair and sells it may not be “altogether free from blame” (177).
Similar questions arise concerning the living beings of our natural environments. Humans are notorious for their objectification of animals, which Kant himself included in the class of mere things. Most of us would reject this categorization today, maintaining—at the very least—that our beloved pets are more than mere things. But what should we say of a fly, a mushroom, a maple tree, etc.? Does the language of thinghood do them justice? Are they truly in the same category as keys, stamps, coffee mugs, etc.? These are questions to be explored more deeply at another time.
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